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It became more and more clear there was an acute void; Ben didn’t even try to fill it. Speaking about these things finally exposes them to daylight, making her consider their meaning. I would initiate things and he’d say, ‘I can’t turn on when you want me to.’ That was a problem because every night I wanted it and I’d think maybe this time, and then nothing. The last time we had sex, ever, halfway through I said, ‘We shouldn’t do this,’ because there were no feelings coming through. Putting creams on my skin was so sensual; when I made the kids’ sandwiches, I’d lick the peanut butter off my finger and feel it was so erotic.
Laura never speaks directly to her husband of their estrangement; she never spoke to Matthew of the real impediments to a permanent relationship. ” “Anything that’s not about the weather or what’s for dinner is fraught with danger. Someone said, “If you wouldn’t even listen to his explanation, then you must have been simply waiting for the opportunity to end your marriage.” It took me a long time to accept that she was right, that I needed that kick in the head to give me the courage to finally take control.
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She seems to live in a vacuum—not once giving voice to the clamouring problems of what any of this means in the outside world. “I’m afraid of abandoning my children and their idea of what a family should be.” For a moment I am stunned into silence. Her children must know only too well that this shared isolation is not a family. I have so many divorced friends and they all seem miserable. The betrayal is no longer important to me, except as a catalyst for an understanding of self, a move into a better life.
“It was after he dumped me that I really started thinking. But he is a lawyer from a good family; my dad had worked in a factory and came home dirty. ” There it is again: the spectre of being working class; the ghost of her mother rising up, requiring her to worry about appearances, about what people will think. Perhaps Laura needs that kick, needs Ben to force the decision.